il Tombolo

tomboloFrills and things. Vintage and lace.

Where did our fascination with lace come from?

Lace is considered to be one of those feminine wardrobe essentials, synonymous with high-heeled shoes.  Attractive, not very practical and likely uncomfortable. That said, why does our attraction to it, seem to start from birth?

I can still recall the day I fished out this find from the back of my sister’s closet.

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I had thought I had hit the ‘dress-up’ jackpot. What little girl wouldn’t be excited to find a wedding dress, just her size that fit almost perfectly.  I felt like a princess….

well….

sort of….

until I saw old photographs of my sister and brother’s communion taken in the late 50’s and regaled at how pristine and polished they looked compared to the crimpled blob of a crinolin I was donning over my checkered gabardine pants.

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What I didn’t know at the time was that my mother made this dress.

Including the lace pictured here:

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(on a side note, someone skilled in the art would have noticed that my brother’s suit was slightly big.  In fact, my grandfather, upon seeing it for the first time, several months after the photo was taken (we only had snail mail back then) said “it looks like he fell into it?”, haha – cute though 😉  ).

My mother came from a long line of women who made the fine art of needlework part of their vocation. It was more than a hobby, it was a livelihood. What also helped was that my grandfather was a tailor, his father was a tailor and his father’s father was a tailor. That’s the way it was back then. Those types of things seem to embed themselves into the DNA.

The Cambridge Suit Factory, famous for its DAKS suits aka Coppley Noys was a  factory in Hamilton. I believe now its just called Coppley.  My mother worked there for many years, on the floor, sewing piecework. Her specialty was men’s suit jackets. In 1979 she was chosen from many in the factory to sew Prince Andrew’s navy-style jacket when he attended Lakefield College in Canada. My mother remembers getting his measurements delivered on HRH stationary and remarked at how long his arms were. But I digress yet again…

Back to the wedding dress. I get a kick out of Kleinfeld’s bench…yes I’m a “say yes to the dress” fan.  I just love watching these different women from all walks of life: average, busty, tall, short, small, stout, and rail thin, all looking for that special gown that will make them the “Belle of the ball”. The whole idea of the frilly white dress is such a “consumeristic” custom isn’t it??. Whether its a low end “$1500” no name copy of a Pnina Tournai, or $15,000 for the real deal, there is something they almost always have in common…tears…and lace.

I’m sure that if the first lace makers of their day knew what Kleinfelds actually charges for a dress in 2015 (machine – made lace no doubt) they would be rolling in their graves. In my searches on ebay.it (the italian ebay site), I was looking for vintage lace just to see what it goes for. Very interesting, bobbin lace is still worth something in Europe. If you are ever interested, go to www.ebay.it and type “merletto antico” in the search engine and see what you can find.

Here in North America, someone would have a hard time buying a lace doilie  (that would have taken some poor woman over six hours to make), for anything more than $6. And we think garment workers are exploited in Asia? Why make your own lace then if no one is willing to pay for it? Why bother learning to become expert in lace-making??

Because its cool.

That’s why.

Back in Italy, my grandmother used to teach young ladies the fine art of needlework, embroidery, lace making, crochet, & sewing, in addition to taking on commissions. These were more than just a past-time, they were a necessity. People depended on craft prior to the days of the mass produced garments.

When a young woman was about to become a bride , a dowrey in its most basic form consisted of having enough undergarments, bedding and dining linens for the couples’ new life together. Nonna would be commissioned to help prepare dowries which she said, consisted of setting of 12 bras, 12 petticoats, 12 undergarments, 12 nighties, etc…in addition to bedding, and dining tablecoths and napkins for settings of twelve. When she was 16, she began sewing her first king size bedspread which took her four years to complete.

Here it is on my sister’s bed. A few close-up shots.  The angels were all hand drawn out in advance and the patterns created by herself as well.  Note the fine needlework edging around each figure.

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Back in the 70’s when Nonna came to Canada for an extended period of time, she embroidered beautiful linens for my sister as a wedding gift.  Beautiful trim with birds carrying ribbons and branches in their mouths, all along the top edge of the top sheets of bedding sets. Absolutely stunning work.   She would buy the bedsheets ready made, and I watched her strip off top band and sides, and redo the embroidery all by hand.

It was at this time that she tried to teach me how to embroider beginner stitches and she would smile at my ‘handiwork’ (~ which, actually, was quite sloppy), and she’d remark with encouraging words like “dont be discouraged, this takes a lifetime to perfect”.  I would watch how easy she made it look, but no matter how much I practiced, I could never make my stitches look as machine-perfect as her own.  Amazing, really.

My mother knows how to work the bobbin lace or “pillow lace” as they call it in some parts of the world. Bobbins come in all shapes and sizes, and usually have a section for winding the threads in addition to tail to easily handle them. The older bobbins such as the ones shown are hand-carved and along with the patterns shown. These patterns and bobbins are over sixty years old.

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The various regions of Italy today have their own distinct style of lace-making as unique to them as their dialects. In Genoa, the lace had a cording woven through it that is typically considered akin to French lace today. The laces of the Milanese region were similar to what today is known as Battenberg (with thread weaves and tapes running through it). the Venetian laces had a more “Russian and Eastern European look about them. One common ‘thread’ (ha-ha) however, was that they were all made with bobbin spools, and they were all made on a base of anywhere from 8 to over 100 bobbins.

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The basic premise is to pin your pre-scribed pattern on your pillow surface and attach your threaded bobbins to a starting point. The bobbins are thread woven over each other, knotted then tied off one at a time with pins. The entire pattern surface is then covered with pins by the time the work is complete. After it is lifted from the pillow, it usually takes ones handiwork to embroider it onto a muslin sheet. Once attached, the muslin backing is cut away from the lacework.

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The origins of lace are not well known. Its hard to say which culture or era can take credit for its beginnings. One thing is for sure, many regions of eastern and central Europe developed their own ‘style’ and the art was far-reaching. In Italy, the first laces originated in three distinct regions. The Italian form of lace making is called “il Tombolo” taken from the shape of the pillow used.

Its typically a ‘bolster style’ pillow that is mounted on a stand, that would make it easy for a person to place a chair in front of and sit comfortably for hours.
When I did a photo search of the lace making is Isernia, a city about 200km inland and south east of Rome, it pulled up the following photo:

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The photo depicts a group of ladies ‘at their work’. Co-incidentally, even though this photo was older, I was so surprised to find that my mother recognized some of the women in it. The ‘tombolo’ as it was called, was characteristic of afternoons spent in the company of friends and neighbours, and was time spent where the women would work, chat, and share. All finished with their familial duties for the afternoon, this time was used to transfer their skills to the next generation, whilst story-telling; in addition to developing a wonderful sense of community.

Once I had discovered how lace was actually made, I never looked at it the same way again. Every time I go into a store, and I see a table cloth, or an article of clothing, I pay particular attention to see if it was machine made (much of the time it is).

If it appears to have been made by human hands, I think of the woman (or man, I suppose) who sat and toiled and secretly thank them for the lovely gift of their golden hands.

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Everything you see I owe to Spaghetti…(Sophia Loren)

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Everything you see, I owe to Spaghetti”..(Sophia Loren)

If you hadn’t already noticed, my banner picture on this blog is a photo of ‘Sophia Loren’ and her sister ‘Anna Maria Scicolone’. Sophia is the profiled blonde on the left who’s face is hidden from view. Her sister is pictured facing left; her only sister and four years her junior. This picture, to me, is the essence of this blog. It shows the love of sisterhood with no fear of physical expression of love and connection.

Unless one is openly gay or lesbian, its not considered the norm for same-sexes to show such affection, or to walk down the street arm-in-arm. In places like Italy however, this is very normal. One only needs to take a stroll on a typical Italian ‘Corso’ on any given day of the week and see two heterosexual men walk arm-in-arm (as would heterosexual women), simply because they feel comfortable showing their affection for one another in the most basic form of friendship.

In fact, you will see this more often that not. If a heterosexual man tried that with another here in this country, he’d either be socked in the eye, or have his buddy recoil in horror, and possibly re-think hanging out with him.

Conversely though, some of these European traits do make their way into our culture here, especially among the older generations.  For example, in my parents home, I regularly see the male adults in my family greet my father with a kiss on both cheeks, to show their love and respect for our aging Patriarch. As a woman watching them, I feel a sense of admiration in their ability to be secure in their manliness, yet still feel comfortable showing this level of affection.

But I am digressing…sort of…

On my Pinterest page I have a board dedicated to Sophia Loren. I have searched the internet looking for her most memorable photos. In several of the pictures, I’ve captioned many of them with some of her quotes about family, aging, beauty, and life.

(btw…check out the waistline??)

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My sister asked me about a year ago “why do you have a Sophia Loren board?”
I couldn’t articulate an answer without going into a long and drawn-out explanation such as the one I’m giving now… other than “she seems familiar to me, and I just love her”.

In 2006, I had the good fortune of seeing her in person at Carmen’s banquet center in Hamilton ON. She was in her early 70’s at the time and even in her prime years, I was overcome by her beauty and personal presence in a room. How can I explain it? Its not even the celebrity in her, but more of ‘who’ she is, and what she represents, to all women of Italian origin. She is truly a cultural icon and when one meets her and speaks with her, an air of confidence, class, distinction and femininity surrounds her.

One is drawn in.

For me, it was the familiarity of her. I think of my mother, my sister, my daughter, my friends. That’s why I have a Sophia Loren board.

Many of us already know some details about her past – born Sofia Villani Scicolone, in Naples before WW2 – a rags to riches story, if you will.  Her father refused to marry her mother whom he provided no support to, and thus Sophia and her siblings spent their childhood in poverty. She was discovered after entry in a beauty pageant, at the age of 14, in 1949. Although she didn’t win the pageant (can you believe it? she didn’t win the pageant…), she did manage to catch the eye of a famous Italian movie producer Carlo Ponti, whom she had a relationship with, and married 7 years later. In the ensuing years, she landed a five-movie contract with paramount pictures in the late 1950’s.

It was at this time that her professional career soared, making her one of most sought-after leading ladies of the mid 20th century. It was here that she essentially proved her worth as an actress.

You can google her IMdB to see her past accomplishments so I wont go into them here, however it was her performance in Two Women that earned her an Academy Award for Best Actress in 1962 and made her the first artist to win an Oscar in a foreign-language performance.

It was also her personal experience during the war, and especially having to bear witness to her mother’s suffering, that helped her to ‘get into character’ for the part. When I heard her descriptions of this time in her life, I immediately thought of my own mother who had similar stories, and it pierced my heart.

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Sophia Loren has many philosophies on life which parallel many others in the Italian community. Her take on a healthy lifestyle, minimizing stress, a hard work ethic, work-life balance and prioritizing ones life ~ having children ~ taking time to be a good mother, along with setting goals in life, and wholesome eating (and good genes) have helped her to live a long and healthy sought-after life. She was absolutely not without hardship. In fact, she had much adversity in her life.

“Everything you see, I owe to Spaghetti” …..

Sounds kind of funny, doesn’t it?…

However, it’s her way of reinforcing that you can still have a dynamite figure and eat pasta. She takes pride in her connection to her culture and her focus on family, Healthy-eating, a good Mediterranean diet, meats, fish, poultry, legumes and yes CARBS as a ‘staple’ in the diet, are “good for your soul” and thus your body too. All things good and in moderation …

I could never, in million years, see Sophia Loren singing the praises of a gluten free diet, just for the sake of eating gluten free.

And thank goodness for that!!

Just as a little extra treat on today’s blog I thought I would add a quick fettucine recipe that is easy to make, especially for those quick week night meals.

The following pasta dish is a modified version of my cousin Tomasso’s recipe from Luxembourg (God may he rest in peace ~ Tomasso,  I think of you every time I make this)

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I call it “Caprese Salad Fettucine”

• 1 pint cherry tomatoes cut in half
• 1/2 cup (handful) of fresh basil chopped
• 1/4 cup fresh parsley (chopped)
• 1 onion (chopped)
• 2 cloves of garlic (mashed)
• 1 cup of fresh buffalo mozzarella (cubed)
• Salt and Pepper to taste

In a frying pan on medium heat, saute the garlic, in a couple of dollops of olive oil, until lightly browned.  Remove from oil.  Add onions and fry on medium heat until transparent. Add cherry tomatoes but give just a light simmer for two to three minutes (not necessary to cook all through). Add salt and pepper to taste.

In a 5L pot, boil water for pasta and salt it. Add Fettucini noodles and cook until al-dente. Remove and drain pasta water. Immediately add the tomato mixture, chopped fresh basil and buffalo mozzarella. Toss together (note the buffalo mozzarella will want to settle to bottom of the pot), Transfer from pot to large family style pasta serving bowl and garnish with grated parmesan cheese.

A nice plate of pasta, a nice glass of wine and buon appetito!

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Zucchini Flowers

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Fried zucchini flowers are one of those delicacies that remind me of summer picnics when I was a kid. It seems so stereotypical but most Italians I know, recall the large family picnics at the beach, where every ‘mother’ among the group would bring way too much food, more than the entire entourage could possibly eat in a week. One family would usually head out first thing in the morning and park one vehicle close to the picnic area to transport the supplies – lawn chairs, tent, bocce balls, barbeque and some type of musical instrument. Their job was to scout several picnic tables under a large shade tree, and string them together end-on-end, and wait for others to arrive.

And yes, our mothers would bring red and white checkered tablecloths.

Besides packing everything but the kitchen sink, round barbeque with charcoal, and coolers of fresh marinated lamb and spezzini (tiny barbeque-able meat kabobs), steaks and sausages for dinner, our mothers would bring some of the ‘lighter fare’ for lunch such as a hot tray of lasagna wrapped in several layers of newsprint and tablecloths, cold slab pizza, accompanied by prosciutto and soppressata, water melon, frittata sauteed with mint leaves & parmesan cheese, and of course fried zucchini flowers.

Zucchini flowers are a wonderful and addictive appetizer treat. One can never get enough of them. A normal sized garden of a few plants would yield only about twenty flowers per harvest. Early morning is the best time to harvest the flowers. It is also important to note that flowers are either male and female.

Although the female flower is tastier, its best to pick the male flower for the purpose of consumption, as it serves no purpose other than falling off the vine after it flowers.  The female flower, on the other hand, is essential for the plant and should be left in tact so the vine actually bears fruit.

In mid summer when the vine begins to flower you will notice a delicate and sizable yellow bloom on it. The male flower is hairier and it has a thin base where the zucchini attaches to the stem. The female has a thick bulge which is its ovary (at the point where it is attached to the vine). Once you harvest as many blooms as possible, it is best to brush them off rather than wash them in order to prepare them for frying.

Here is the recipe below:

Ingredients

  • Vegetable oil, for frying
  • 2 large eggs
  • 1 cup cold water
  • 1 cup all-purpose flour
  • 1/2 tsp baking soda
  • 12 zucchini flowers – washed and dried
  • Kosher salt and
  • freshly ground black pepper

Directions

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Pour about 1 inch of oil in a large wok-style pot and heat to 375 degrees F. In a deep mixing bowl, lightly beat the eggs and combinewith cold water. Add the flour and continue to mix until all is incorporated into a smooth batter. Dip a few flowers at a time in the batter and saturate to coat completely, letting the excess drip off.

Fry the flowers in the hot oil until crisp and golden – should take no more than 2 minutes. Remove from oil and place on paper towels prior to plating.

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Buon Appetito!

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Mother, Sister, Daughter, Woman…

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As Mother; I am Nurturer
A Guardian; A Guide
As Mother, I am Gentleness
A Warmth of Selfless Pride
As Mother; I am Teacher
I’m Strength; Security
A Mother I am Love & Peace
I am The Sanctuary
As Daughter; I am Humbled
I am Sheltered ;I am Child
As Daughter I’m a Student of
The Mirror of My Eyes
A Daughter; I seek Wisdom
Approval for My Pride
A Daughter; I am Innocence
Forever asking Why?
As Sister; I am Bound by Blood
A Confidante For Life
A Sister I am Kindred Truth
Eternally Entwined
As Sister and as No-One Else
I Speak So Honestly
A Sister; I am Not Like You
But you are Part Of Me
As Woman; I am All Of These
And Very Glad To Be
A Woman who just wears her Heart
With Pride Upon Her Sleeve
…..where All The World Can

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/mother-daughter-sister-and-woman#ixzz3ZkjF1ejG

written by Jodie Mayhew

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Calabrese Rice Croquettes

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Calabria is the region of Italy, located  in the south west part of the country, at the very toe of the boot. You may have heard it said that each region has versions of the same dishes, with either slight or significant variations.  ‘Arancini’ as they are typically known in Sicily, are Rice Balls – or Rice Croquettes.  The name Arancino comes from the Italian meaning “little orange”. Citrus fruits (oranges and lemons) grow in abundance in the south of Italy, being a zone 9 tropical and semi-tropical climate. Rice croquettes mimic the shape of a lemon while the arancini mimic the shape of an orange – and thus the name.  I’m not sure why the oval shaped croquette isn’t called “limoncello” ~ probably because “limoncello” is something completely different that we can talk about later!

These croquettes can be served on their own, or with a side of marinara sauce for dipping.

I want to thank my sister’s friend Ann for sharing her recipe that has been in her family for generations, and passed down from woman-to-woman but never in written form.

Ingredients:

• Large pot 3/4 full of water
• 750g Italian Style (Arborio) Rice
• 1 tbsp salt
• 5 eggs
• 2 tbsp fresh chopped parsley
• 1 cup grated Padano or Reggiano parmesan cheese
• 2-3 cups of Italian style breadcrumbs
• Sunflower oil for frying

Directions:

Fill a Dutch oven (large) pot 3/4 full of water and bring to a boil. Add the salt to the water along with 750 g of the arborio rice. Bring the entire mixture back up to a boil and stir occasionally.

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Turn heat down and simmer for 12-15 minutes until liquid is absorbed and rice is tender. (not sticky).

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Break 5 Eggs into bowl and whisk. Add the parsley (can use dried if you dont have fresh – but reduce to 1 tbsp of dried). Grate 1 cup of Grand Padano or Reggiano parmesan cheese and add to egg mix.

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Transfer rice to a large bowl to cool. Cool only until rice is manageable and will not cook egg mixture. Add egg mixture and blend. Then mix gently with your hands.

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Take breadcrumbs and sprinkle on top of flattened empty cereal bag or wax paper (or cookie sheet).

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Use hands to scoop enough rice mixture to form a roughly oval shaped croquette,
Press gently, enough to keep it from falling apart.

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Take a handful of rice mixture in a bread-crumbed hand after rolling in breadcrumbs.
Turn and firmly pat each oval, making a pointed cone at both ends.

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Make sure they are quite firm.
Makes approximately 40-50 croquettes.
Heat sunflower oil in stainless steel pan until hot. Be sure there is enough oil to cover at least 1/2 or more, but not all the croquette.

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Throw a grain of rice mixture in hot oil. If the piece rises, it’s hot enough.
Use slotted spoon to drop croquettes in oil. Gently move pan sideways to coat croquettes with oil. Let them settle in pan a few minutes before turning. Cook on one side until golden. Then gently turn and brown other side until golden brown.

Use slotted spoon to lift out, and on to paper toweled tray and immediately put more croquettes in oil. (never take all out leaving an empty pan as oil can burn and residual breadcrumbs can char at bottom)

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Please feel free to send me your projects, recipes or stories to post and I will do my best to get to each one. Also, send me comments and let me know how the recipes work out for you. Thanks again ladies!

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Metamorphosis

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Metamorphosis:  n.
a change of the form or nature of a thing or person into a completely different one, by natural or supernatural means.

Yesterday, my dad turned 92. I know, I know, how could a 92 year old man have a daughter as young as I? lol

In 1962, six years after he immigrated to Canada, my father set off once again for his homeland, to see what the economic situation was like in Italy, and to see if he could re-create a life for our family there. Not many people who know us, know that he was that serious about it.  Life was tough for new immigrants coming to ‘America’ after WW2.  My mother has told me often that if she had had the money to go back, she would have turned around the day she arrived.

iserniaThat summer, he returned to Isernia, region of Molise;  a town nestled in the Appenine valley, located about 150km inland, and south-east of Rome.  His purpose, to visit his family, to see his father (which would be the last time), to catch up with friends, and to check out life, once again, back home.  Upon his return to Canada, he approached my mother and said, “L’Italia non e piu per noi“.

Translated: “Italy is not for us anymore”.

For anyone who has made another country their permanent home, I think they may understand what he would have been talking about:  When we leave our country of origin and are absent for some time, the place, the people, and the images are frozen in time. Yet, life back “home”, goes on. When we return, we are caught off-guard when things seem changed.

There is a film on Netflix, called “The Bicycle Thief”.

It’s a neorealistic depiction of life in post-war Rome, set in 1948. I would recommend you see it, especially if older movies interest you. It’s subtitled, so don’t be disappointed.  For some, it may seem slow-moving, but there is depth in the setting, people, and plot. There is also contradiction in the visuals: Buildings old and new. It was voted one of the best movies of its time. It explained to me, how my parents may have been shaped by that era, and what the situation in Europe was like, that it precipitated many to leave, and look for work abroad.

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In any case, when he returned to Canada, he and my mother recommitted to life here, and they seriously started looking to purchase a home, and expand their family. My father was in his forties when he became a ‘daddy’ again. I have extremely fond memories of my childhood and of life with my dad. Some things that stick out in my mind were all the home projects he did. I don’t think he realized how much he was being ‘watched’, and how much we all learned from him.

My father was extremely ingenious, and somewhat eccentric. He still is, however, his loss of eyesight limits his current abilities. Our family is very “technical” and “crafty”; a big part of this comes from the passing down of the “ingenuity” gene, in my opinion. He was constantly building his own machines to perform various ‘necessary’ tasks – like diamond-tipped marble cutters. I say ‘necessary’ because everyone who builds a marble staircase, leading to the basement, needs a marble cutter.

I also recall him building a copper-pipe irrigation system, to water bedding plants and hanging baskets, that doubled as a beautiful climbing-rose pergola, complete with hand crafted copper leaves.

Then of course, the greenhouse he built, with “automated retractable roof”. At precisely 74deg F the roof would open. The project was by trial and error, for when the temperature fluctuated between 73 and 75 degrees, on a given day, the roof would cycle between ‘open’ and ‘closed’, so he had to install a limit switch to stop this from happening. I used to joke that dad beat the designers of the skydome by five years!

I sometimes feel sorry for him because he can’t use a computer or see a TV as before. He was always ahead of the curve technology-wise. He was an early-adopter of technology, who has lost the ability to experience the full-potential of the internet. I know he would have loved it.  He enjoys it when people help to tune him in, by being his eyes, and ears on the net.

One of the best memories I have of my dad, takes place around 1970. It was a beautiful late summer morning. The stonecrop was in full bloom, and my father was outside tending his roses and cutting the grass. There were about 50 Monarch butterflies in our garden that morning. My friends and I (about five of us) were playing out on the sidewalk, when my dad asked me to run in the house and get a spool of thread from my mother. I returned with the thread and he asked me to watch the Monarchs land on the stonecrop blooms.

stonecropHe showed me how to pick them up carefully by the wings, while he slipped a noose of a length of a few feet of thread, loosely around the butterfly’s body. He gently tightened the knot, and released the butterfly so that it was free to fly on the end of the thread.  We ended up releasing them for those who wish to know, however, It was quite a sight to see…five children walking down the sidewalk with our Monarch butterflies on a string.

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We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. – Maya Angelou

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My Sister My Self…

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I love this picture of my sister and I.

It was taken on the front porch of my parent’s house in the mid 60’s when the only thing on the property was the house, a crushed-stone driveway, and a set of concrete block steps that lead up to the front door.

We had just moved in to our home and it was at the peak of the summer solstice as evidenced by my bare feet and light dress. I look at this picture sometimes and I see my daughter in my sister.  As my daughter approached her teens, I would pull out this photo and just stare at it.   I kind of see many of us in her.   It’s hard to believe that she was thirteen here.

She was much more responsible than most thirteen year olds.  It has been over fifty years and my parents still live in this home. Their neighbours who had moved into their ‘just-built’ home, during that time, (a row of only five homes in the area that was reachable by dirt roads and only one bus stop located a mile away), still live next door.

Our new neighbour had not met our family yet, and went to his wife this day and said “boy, we have an awfully young mother with a baby that lives in the house next door”.   As that was what it was like for both of us – being mistaken for mother and child.   I was fortunate or ‘unfortunate’,  however one wants to look at it, to have two mothers growing up.

They say that birth order is a key influencer, that shapes our personalities as much as parenting does.  That our gender, age gap, culture, and order is very meaningful to who we become as people.  Typically, firstborns are high achievers, responsible, bossy, organized, and dutiful.  Middle children, are more rebellious, trusting, empathetic, peace-loving thinkers; while the youngest tend to be more easy-going, fun loving, self centered and creative.

Upon reflection in my own family, these qualities definitely hold true.  Other factors that influence traits are the gaps in ages of the children, their gender and their cultural upbringing. In an Italian household for example, if there is less than a two year gap between the first and second born, and the second born is a male (which was in the case of my family) then the tendency is that the male will take on more of the first born traits.  I see this now as we are older, but then my brother was definitely the more trusting, empathetic, and non-confrontational one.

In our home my sister was definitely the most responsible, organized and dutiful of the three.  We shared a room in our new house. I had a crib. She had a double bed. I tell her that I remember my crib, but she doesn’t believe me, because I was 2 years old when I slept in it. I remember the position of it in the room, I remember the orange cartoon lion decal on the headboard by my head. I remember my mother coming into the room after she would put me to bed, jam a bottle in my crying mouth, and leave while I watched the crack of light in the doorway as I fell asleep.

This all makes sense to me now. My mother still was back then (and still is) such a hard-working woman. Between getting up and leaving the house at 6am everyday, working a full day, coming home and making the most awesome dinners for us (which I didn’t truly appreciate at the time) and then, entertaining the sometimes boatload of guests in our home, on any given night of the week, (our house was party central), its no wonder that there was little time for bedtime let alone any time for herself.

The very first night my sister and I shared her double bed. I had a fever. My mother was worried about me so she wanted me to sleep close to her. I remember what side of the bed I was on. I remember I wasn’t allowed to have a pillow, and I remember throwing up in her rollers.

I don’t recall her ever getting angry over it.

In this age of the bigger houses and smaller families, the whole ‘bedroom-sharing’ among siblings becomes non-existent. When you share a room with a sibling, it shapes you. You are forced to spend much more time together whether you like it or not. You are able to have more ‘whispering in the dark’ time, that you will probably never have again until you are married.  You learn about borrowing, stealing and breaking.  You also learn about the contradiction of the ‘sharing of privacy’.  For instance, when you are a 19 year old girl who wants to go out with friends, and mom makes you take little 6 year old sister along, then little sister gets to know what the inside of a bar looks like at a rather young age.

Psychologists have long discovered that there is a huge range of sister relationships.  If we ask a set of sisters – even identical twins, we will say ‘we are so different’, and we spend time telling others how different we are – just like I’m doing now, I suppose?  We never got along, we always got along, we are really different, but we are really close.
Many times people define us in terms of one another.  We are compared to each other. Sometimes its cute, sometimes its hurtful, and sometimes we are thankful that the opportunity to compare at all,  exists.

What I have learned about myself, in a big way, comes from my sister.  The whole birth order discussion is fascinating to me.  Its fascinating, and its forever.

There is a quote from the musical by two sisters “Bessie and Sadie Delany” called the The Delany Sisters .   Bessie said about Sadie, “Sadie doesn’t approve of me sometimes; she kind of looks at me in that big sister sort of way.”

Bessie was 101 when she said this.

Sadie was a 103.

How special is that?

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Prosciutto, Fig and Walnut Pinwheels

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One can get creative with pinwheels.  The base recipe is a breadmaker dinner roll recipe that can be used for savory or sweet pinwheels.  They are great picnic take-alongs or make-aheads for kids lunches or a quick breakfast.  They make great appetizers too.

If you have a breadmaker then continue on for the dough recipe.  Alternately you can purchase store-bought dough and continue on to the ‘filling’ recipe below:

For the dough:

Measure the following ingredients directly into the breadmaker’s bread pan, in the order listed:

  • 1 cup milk (80F-90F)
  • 1/4 cup plus 4 tbspn water (80F)
  • 1 large egg at room temperature
  • 1/4 cup of sugar
  • 2 tbspn unsalted butter or margarine cut in pieces
  • 1/2 tspn salt
  • 2-1/2 cups of bread flour
  • 2-1/4 tspn bread machine yeast

Insert the bread pan into the chamber in your breadmaker, close the lid and plug into wall outlet.  Select the ‘dough’ setting and press the start button. The ‘finished’ signal will sound when the dough is done – note – we don’t want it to go through the bake cycle.

Remove the baking pan from the bread-maker and with floured hands, roll the dough out onto a floured surface as if making a pizza, being careful to gradually flour and stretch the dough.  Roll it into a square shape.

For the filling you will need:

  • Herb-flavoured cream cheese spread – about 5 tbsp
  • Approx 8 to 10 thin slices of prosciutto
  • 1/4 cup of chopped walnuts.
  • 6-8 dried figs – finely chopped (I like to soak these in a couple ounces of brandy for a day)
  • 1 cup shredded asiago cheese
  • (optional – hot pepper flakes to taste)
  • One beaten egg for the eggwash
  • salt and pepper to taste

Spread ‘herb- flavoured’ cream cheese gently onto the pizza dough, being careful not to tear it.  Then layer prosciutto on the cream cheese layer.  Afterward sprinkle the chopped figs and walnut pieces and the shredded cheese on top ensuring evenly-spaced coverage. Sprinkle salt and pepper to taste.

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Gently take one of the long ends and begin folding over to form a log.  Orient yourself with the roll perpendicular to you and the roll pointing away from you.  (ie in this photo above, I would be standing to the left of the roll on the side of the rollingpin).  Pull and roll until completely wrapped.  Wet and fold in the outer wrap and press closed.

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With a sharp knife, cut the log in 1/2 to 1″ strips and gently place in ‘cookie fashion” on a greased baking sheet spaced about 1-1/2″ apart.

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Let sit in a warm place covered with a clean dishtowel for about 30 minutes.

Brush on egg wash onto each roll and bake at 375Deg F for 20 minutes or until  toasted or browned on top and the cheese has melted and oozed a little.

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You can really get creative with this recipe and use all kinds of combinations.  You can try spreading a little red pepper jelly with the figs to give a little extra hot/sweet taste for a little something different, or substitute spinach, feta and sundried tomato instead for less sweet and more savoury.

I hope you enjoy.  Please write to me and post feedback and let me know how it turns out for you.

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Enjoy!
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Kijiji Diva

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Who doesn’t love a garage sale? Well…I can think of a few people ~ my husband for one. He can’t seem to get past the whole idea of “one person’s trash is another person’s treasure”.   I think it may have come from having a father who was a consummate collector of things, a dozen window panes, and 17 old typewriter’s stored in his basement.

Online shopping has been around almost two decades now. Like millions of others, after the initial fear of credit card transaction’ing’ wained, I was in buyer’s heaven. EBay was my first online shopping playground.   Albeit, I’m not a big online buyer, I’m not a huge fan of virtual comparison shopping as I still need that ‘tangible’ look-and-see-before-I-buy’….before I buy, if you will.

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I happen to LOVE Kijiji. I am so glad that here in Canada it has not gone the way of Ebay, as in the USA.   I know, I know, there are the dangers of Craigslist and Kijiji, and it is not for everyone. First and foremost is online safety, so I just want to make clear that there is a right way, and a wrong way, when going about transactions with the public – however that is a topic for another day.  I have purchased furniture, fine bone china, gold, diamonds, and cars, to name a few, on Kijiji.

People call me the Kijiji Queen.

One would think that my home looks like one big garage sale hit it, but I think anyone who is familiar with me knows that, this could not be further from the truth. I like to think I have an eye for value.

One of my hobbies is “furniture collecting”. I like antiques. I like pretty-much eclectic ‘everything’. 1930’s Art Deco, simple Canadiana, Chippendale, Art Nouveau, Contemporary, Cottage (in the right spaces).   I have taken to browsing the local Kijiji Ads almost every other evening. I have my routine search down pat. First greater Toronto, then Hamilton, Brantford, Kitchener/Waterloo and London ~ for whatever the project of the month will be.

I usually know what I have in mind; a particular period piece perhaps? Such as, the love seat I purchased for my living room which was a 1930’s, smaller replica, of the same sofa ‘Claire Underwood’ would curl up on, in the first two seasons of ‘House of Cards’. It took me eight months before I found what I had been searching for. Finally, a retired teacher in Wainfleet Ontario sold it to me for $130 ~ newly recovered in white/cream, paisley-embossed fabric; (she also threw in a beautiful gesso wall carving for good measure). When it comes to second-hand chairs and upholstered pieces, there is a wonderful lady I know, in Mount Hope ON, who does excellent work in this regard at reasonable prices.

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A couple of years ago, while DH and I were enjoying a quiet evening of coffee-sipping and TV-watching (‘Til Debt Do Us Part – of which we’ve seen every episode), I was scouring the furniture Ads, when my attention turned to two very unique wrought iron pineapple lamps. I paused and drew my gaze closer to the screen, and then it struck me. Those pineapple lamps looked awfully familiar to me. In fact, they were so familiar-looking, I could swear they were mine!?

I said “Hey honey, look at these….”

We immediately took another look and started inspecting everything about the photo; the paint colour on the wall in the background, the trim work, the receptacle. We then looked at each other then dove into the keyboard to search the seller’s “see my other ads” page. On the page, were a few miscellaneous items that looked like they came from a ‘certain someone’s’ bedroom. We saw an Xbox console and a bunch of old games, when my husband exclaimed “Hey! That’s my controller!”.

Suffice to say, after we were done our bout of incredulous laughing, I composed myself and emailed the poor unsuspecting seller and caught her in her tangled Kijiji web. The next day, my daughter posted the following on her status update on her Facebook Page:

“My Mom is so Hardcore….She stalks me on Kijiji”

Fast forward to late 2014. I am in the market for a makeup table. Not just any makeup table. This one has to be well made, it has to have some charm, it can’t be IKEA breakdown furniture. So off to my favourite online shopping site to see what I can drum up. I came across this MAC’s signature series makeup table.

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It looks sort of dramatic and something that I can work with. However, upon closer inspection, I see that its co-branded “Barbie”. Well, I can’t possibly buy myself a Barbie makeup table?” My husband would have a fit. Plus, I check out the price. – $799 USD? Am I seeing that correctly?

I took to my favourite Ad’s site, and lo and behold, right here in Hamilton. Some very nice girl named Becky, who lived in Hamilton’s east end is selling the following unit for fifty dollars.

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That’s FIFTY dollars…

She says she will take less, but she is expecting a baby, so I give her full asking price. I ask my husband to come with me to pick up the unit. The first thing he asks is ” what piece of junk are we picking up this time? Where are you putting it? Is it big and heavy like that 400 lb china cabinet you bought? that Steve and I, broke our backs moving?”

No honey, I said. **big smile**

The following Saturday while my dear husband was out running errands, I had our kitchen, set up as a make-shift shop. Stripping down all the components of the table, I sanded each piece before priming them with KILZ General Purpose Primer Sealer.

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After this coat dries, I begin to apply two coats each of the Sherwin Williams All Surface Enamel HP in two colours 1) French Roast – 6069 2) Moderate White – 6140.   Each coat must dry well in between coats.

Hamilton’s fashion district is renowned in the province for its wide selection of designer fabrics at reasonable prices. Designers and seamstresses/tailors come from southern Ontario to shop here. I picked the following pattern for the vanity seat. I also purchased enough to make matching window treatment and bolster pillows for the bed.

Recovering the stool is quite straight-forward. remove any staples and fabric, replace the foam if required, and definitely replace any batting just under the fabric. Measure around the stool an extra 2.5″ all around. Fold over and staple in place with staple gun. Cut out heavy weight paper backing and staple to clean up the edges.

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Now comes the fun part. Trace on fabric pattern design with paint pen onto table top surface. I chose opposite colours to make the pattern stand out.

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Once dry, the last step is to paint on two coats of Verathane diamond surface water-based clear-coat.

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Le voila.

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The next project? We’ll have to wait and see.
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Artemisia – A Painting Speaks a Thousand Words

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Who do I first think of when I think of female painters? I think of Artemisia Gentileschi. Artemisia was born on July 8th 1592.  She was the only daughter, and first-born, of the famous Classical Roman Painter Orazio Gentileschi. Artemisia, who’s style was heavily influenced by the great Caravaggio, was notably one of the first and most distinguished female painters of the Baroque Period. As a youngster, her father would bring her to his studio where she would work alongside him and her four brothers. It was evident even at a young age, that Artemisia was gifted, and would surpass her four siblings in this regard.

Artemisia was known for her strong portrayal of female protagonists, depicting victims of abuse, or of feminine suicides and warriors. At 18 years of age, she painted her first major works ‘Susanna and the Elders’.

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“Susanna from the Old Testament ‘Book of Daniel” was a fair Hebrew wife who was falsely accused by lecherous voyeurs. As she bathes in her garden, having sent her attendants away, two lustful elders secretly observe the lovely Susanna. When she makes her way back to her house, they accost her, threatening to claim that she was meeting a young man in the garden unless she agrees to have sex with both of them.

She refuses to be blackmailed and is arrested and about to be put to death for promiscuity when a young man named Daniel interrupts the proceedings, shouting that the elders should be questioned to prevent the death of an innocent. After being separated, the two men are questioned about details (cross-examination) of what they saw but disagree about the tree under which Susanna supposedly met her lover. In the Greek text, the names of the trees cited by the elders form puns with the sentence given by Daniel. The first says they were under amastic (ὑπο σχίνον, hupo schinon), and Daniel says that an angel stands ready to cut (σχίσει, schisei) him in two. The second says they were under an evergreen oak tree (ὑπο πρίνον, hupo prinon), and Daniel says that an angel stands ready to saw (πρίσαι, prisai) him in two. The great difference in size between a mastic and an oak makes the elders’ lie plain to all the observers. The false accusers are put to death, and virtue triumphs.*”

While her father was more elegant and refined in his classic style, Artemisia preferred to paint in the dramatic and expressive light on dark (chiaroscurro) tones of the Baroque style. I’ve read that some art critics of her earliest works, believed she used her depiction of these biblical themes as a way to protest the sexual exploitation of women. Before I had embarked on learning and reading about her life, and in taking in her paintings, the way she portrayed her protagonist’s aggressions, the expressions of the sword-wielding women, I wondered if instead she was rebelling against something like this?

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When I think about how far female equality has come in the 21st century, I still remark at how far we still really must go. To put that into the perspective of what a female painter such as she,  must have endured in the 17th century, and to have succeeded in being noticed and respected, to me is a truly remarkable feat.  How truly special she must have been to not only compete in what was then a man’s arena, but to be hailed in her career and to succeed in that world.

Artemisia was heavily discriminated against in the beginning. Because she was a woman, she was denied access to the “Accademia Del Disegno”(Academy of Design). In this respect, her father still wanted her to be able to achieve her potential so he hired Tuscan painter Agostino Tassi to tutor her. During this tutelage, she was raped by Tassi. As hard to believe as it was, during this age, rape was a form of securing marriage without the need for a proposal to a betrothed or to their family. In this ‘game’, personal female honour was stripped away in order to have it restored by the head of the household through an arrangement. Tassi initially promised to marry Artemisia in order to restore her reputation, but he later reneged on his promise and it was then that Orazio reported him to the authorities.

In the ensuing seven-month trial, it was discovered that Tassi had planned to murder his wife, that he had also raped (in order to marry), that he had committed incest with his sister-in-law, and that he was also planning to steal some of Orazio’s paintings. Artemisia was exposed to further humiliation by having to submit to a state imposed gynecological examination. For all this, Tassi was convicted and imprisoned for one year. This was a turning-point for Artemisia’s painting – It was then that she created one for best known works. Judith Beheading Holofernes.

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“The story revolves around Judith, a daring and beautiful widow, who is upset with her Jewish countrymen for not trusting God to deliver them from their foreign conquerors. She goes with her loyal maid to the camp of the enemy general, Holofernes, with whom she slowly ingratiates herself, promising him information on the Israelites. Gaining his trust, she is allowed access to his tent one night as he lies in a drunken stupor. She decapitates him, then takes his head back to her fearful countrymen. The Assyrians, having lost their leader, disperse, and Israel is saved. Though she is courted by many, Judith remains unmarried for the rest of her life.”**

One can’t help to question if this were really a wish for psychological revenge or if what she was attempting to do was to write her own just ending to the story called “sexual discrimination”. Her paint was her power and her brush was her vehicle. Her father, for his part, enabled his daughter and although his methods may seem archaic by today’s standards, I think there was a method to his madness.

One month after the trial, Orazio, in order to help restore his daughter’s dignity, arranged to have her marry a painter by the name of Pierantonio Stiattesi of Florence. She seemed pleased enough with this, and shortly afterward, the couple moved to Florence. A place where any great painter of the time should be.

In Florence, Artemisia enjoyed huge success. She was the first woman accepted into the “Accademia del Disegno (Academy of Design)” in 1616, where then she and her husband both worked as painters. This was a remarkable honour for a woman at that time. She was most respected by artists of her day, and was able to win the protection of influential people in aristocratic circles and the art world, Beginning with the Granduke Cosimo II dei Medici and his Granduchess Cristina. She was introduced to and became a good friend and confidant of Galileo Galilei, exchanging several letters with him and together they engaged each other in long discussion. She was particularly esteemed by Michelangelo Buonarroti the young nephew of the great Michelangelo.

The younger Buonarroti commissioned Artemisia to paint the ceiling of Casa Buonarrotti’s Art Gallery. Can you imagine being bestowed this honour? How ironic, that Tassi would try to destroy this part of her, and yet here she was, a young roman female painter – commissioned to paint the ceiling fresco in the Art Gallery, of the home, of the descendants of Great Michaelangelo? ~ truly an ironic twist of fate…

It is believed that her subjects bear some resemblance to herself. Indeed, in several of her paintings, Artemisia’s energetic heroines have a similar appearance to her self-portraits.
Other notable works from this period include The Conversion of the Magdalene and Judith and her Maidservant.  Artemisia also painted a second version of Judith Beheading Holofernes, this one larger than the earlier version.

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Artemizia had two daughters, Portensia and Francesca. Despite their inheritance, Artemisia was not successful in teaching her daughters to paint.

Her travels and her art took her to far reaching placed like England, where she worked on commissions once again with her father. It was there that she was commissioned by King Charles the 1st, however she left suddenly to escape the civil war. Upon her return she settled in Naples and made this her home. Her art career continued to flourish and she was still active as an artist in the Neopolitan community as late as 1650.  Her last known letters were written in 1651. She is thought by many accounts to have perished in 1652, but many speculate that she died in an outbreak of 1656 which claimed the lives of a good deal of the population in Naples at that time.

“Although there were other female painters in the Baroque period, there is something in the art and the biography of Artemisia Gentileschi that makes her especially fascinating, which explains the continued interest in her life and work. She was the first female to paint images of strong and struggling women. Her early rejection by the art schools and her rape have been examined by many as a resource for her passionate and vivid portrayals of women.***”

Footnotes:
* Wikipedia – Susanna from the book of Daniel
** New World Encyclopedia – Judith beheading Holofernes
***Wikipedia – Artemisia Gentileschi
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